A Lot of Unhappiness Is Just Decision-Making Fatigue

Sah Kilic
2 min readJun 27, 2022
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I don’t know about you, but I get frustrated ordering dinner sometimes.

The menu goes on forever, everything looks good, and I’m too hungry to make a choice — and that’s the perfect analogy for 80% of the unhappiness in my life.

If you’re reading this, you’re likely not in the wild hunting for food. Your problems a more subtle. Devious. They’re not life or death, but they’re very much existential. Mine definitely are.

Getting flustered by life decisions is the “golden standard” for anyone in their 20s. When you’ve got dozens of potential paths, saying yes to one feels like saying no to every other one, and that, ladies and gents, is terrifying.

Spirals of thoughts like “what if I pick the wrong path!” become so common it makes us take no action at all — oh, hello there, depression.

But the part that really grinds my proverbial gears is the fact that saying yes to one path really doesn’t mean saying no to others — it just means trying something for a little while to figure out if it’s the right path.

Lately, more and more, I’ve realized we’re all just wanting to have our cake and eat it too, and I get it, I really do.

Starting again is hard, so we want to get the perfect hole-in-one, but that’s not how trial and error works.

You need to actually try things and get those errors — and I hate it too, but it’s the absolute best way to do it.

So now, when I run into a menu with a lot of food, I check my little book of trials and errors like, “I definitely don’t like weird crap on my pizza,” and I try the next thing.

And it’s the same with life.

Deciding on a path and giving it try is infinitely better than drowning in a pool of indecision.

So next time, just try it out. You won’t “fall behind,” and you won’t “ruin your other opportunities.”

And it’s not a 100% chance that it’ll work out. But staying idle gives you a big ole’ 0% chance of finding what you love.

So point your finger at a path and enthusiastically say, “let’s give that a try!” You might be surprised at how effective it can be.

I hope this perspective helped you out a bit.

Catch you in the next one.

✌🏼 Sah

I hope you enjoyed that one. Keep up with my shenanigans here; I post maybe 1–2 times a week. And hey, if you want something deeper, I’ve written a small book on sorting the mess of life-decision pressure — enjoy!

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